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satyricaHad a cool weekend so far of everything I had planned falling through but fun, spontaneous other things evolving in their place: Friday night I had pleasant sociability drinking after work with work people, then hooking up with school friends on one of those fantastically cheesy bars on a boat on the Thames, then hanging out until stupid-o'clock with egham/roleplaying friends who were just turning up when I got back (although admittedly I got to the point of only being awake for occasional snatches of it after a while;) then saturday I met up with Maggie & Kat (when I'd started feeling human again: we are getting *far* too regular at the greasy spoon of a weekend) to wander around Portobello Road Market for the first time (which is quite a poor effort seeing as I lived just up the road from in during my year in Marylebone at the WLDC) and eat Portugese pastries. Made it to the Hertfordshire C/A game (the only plan I'd made for the weekend which actually came to fruition) for the first time in ages which was cool although I had to rush off to get the last train back to London and didn't get to say goodbye to people properly which felt really dissatisfying in an oddly intense way, especially since the guy I's meeting up with today (motivating my need to come home) is ill & has cancelled; hopefully will be hooking up with Tom later though, as he's passing through London again en route back from Belgium.
Have become conscious recently that I'm really crap at being a social instigator: when I decide to do something, it hardly ever occurs to me to get other people involved, even when it's something I know people would like and even though I enjoy company much more than solitude, and I've become much worse at contacting and meeting up with friends who I don't see in the regular course of social activities. I suspect some of its the time/exhaustion factor of gainful employment & there's a definite London factor of feeling that everyone's too distant, & everyone's time too precious to just hang out; and I think there's a pragmatism in me that if I want to i.e.: see a film doesn't want the faff factor of trying to co-ordinate the diaries of half a dozen people who've all expressed vague interest; but genereallyI tihnk the main factor is that the way I spendmy free time is too (not a word I'd usually associate with myself) spontaneous- I'm far more liekly to go through with a plan I conceive/hear about half an hour before I finish work than a week before, which makes involving other people nigh on impossible. Nonetheless,one of my near interminable list of resolutions is to try & make more of an effort to initiate meeting up with people, even if it's to do nothing more exciting than hang out and chat.
Have become conscious recently that I'm really crap at being a social instigator: when I decide to do something, it hardly ever occurs to me to get other people involved, even when it's something I know people would like and even though I enjoy company much more than solitude, and I've become much worse at contacting and meeting up with friends who I don't see in the regular course of social activities. I suspect some of its the time/exhaustion factor of gainful employment & there's a definite London factor of feeling that everyone's too distant, & everyone's time too precious to just hang out; and I think there's a pragmatism in me that if I want to i.e.: see a film doesn't want the faff factor of trying to co-ordinate the diaries of half a dozen people who've all expressed vague interest; but genereallyI tihnk the main factor is that the way I spendmy free time is too (not a word I'd usually associate with myself) spontaneous- I'm far more liekly to go through with a plan I conceive/hear about half an hour before I finish work than a week before, which makes involving other people nigh on impossible. Nonetheless,one of my near interminable list of resolutions is to try & make more of an effort to initiate meeting up with people, even if it's to do nothing more exciting than hang out and chat.
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Date: 2004-10-24 05:55 am (UTC)"Hey folks, thinking of seeing FILM X on Saturday afternoon! Who's up for coming along?"
I've done it a few times and had between 5 and 18 people turn up for them so it can work. Admittedly it works less well for spur of the moment things that are taking place within the hour or so of the actual post. I've had nil replies for drinks a couple of times but that's largely because I posted about 30-60 minutes beforehand :p